Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. the buddha said.

PAIN

“Pain is very real. We cannot pretend that we are all happy and secure. Pain is our constant companion.. If we are seeking eternity or happiness or security, then the experience of life is one of pain, duhkha, suffering.”

“If there were no confusion, there would be no wisdom.”

“The spiritual path is not fun – better not begin it. If you must begin, then go all the way, because if you begin and quit, the unfinished business you have left behind begins to haunt you all the time.. Confusion and pain are viewed as sources of inspiration, a rich resource. Furthermore, you acknowledge that you are intelligent and courageous, that you are able to be fundamentally alone.. But it is possible to make friends with the desolation and appreciate its beauty.. That aloneness is freedom, fundamental freedom.”

Chogyam Trungpa, The Myth of Freedom

Love and Suffering.